A Life

A weekly podcast about asexuality

A Life #26: The Cult of Virginity

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The modern society seems to put extreme pressure on the question of virginity. Who are virgins and who are not? When does one lose their virginity? In this episode of A Life, we examine the question of virginity as it relates to asexuality.

Asexuality and virginity


July 4, 2010 - Posted by | Podcast


  1. Here is the comic that I mentioned in the podcast in response to the comic someone else linked.


    Comment by Heidi | July 4, 2010

  2. When people use the whole life experience thing when talking about virginity, They never talk about being a virgin of any other life experiences. Why is sex so important. For example I’m a virgin of Sky Diving. I’ve never been and I’m sure those who have would tell me how much I’m missing out on. That jumping out of a plane is a huge adenine rush and makes you feel alive and how fun is. That there is no other experience like it and once you’ve got over being nervous on your first time and finally do it you’ll want to go again and again and again. The same things people bring up to tell you why sex is so amazing. My point is no-one ever asks me if I’m a virgin of this – it just doesn’t matter. And yet it with sex its made into this big thing if you haven’t done it.

    Virgin of sex= matters
    Virgin of anything else = doesn’t matter

    I guess some people view sex as a rite of passage into adulthood not just as another thing to experience in life like trying a new food.

    But anyways, as is the same with sex for many aces, with sky driving while it would be fun for some people to others it would be totally traumatic.

    I know this is slightly paranoid on my part, but when OLDER men hit on me I feel as if they can sense my innocence. That they can somehow tell I’m a virgin and this is the reason they are trying to seek me out. I know alot of people my age aren’t virgins anymore so with me its like they can somehow tell? I don’t know if it has anything to do with the fact I look ALOT younger than I am , am very shy and dress quite childlike and they just guess that I’m inexperience or what but it does bug me.

    I was listening to a podcast here in Australia that is made my a Christian Community radio program (btw I’m an atheist just to make that clear). You can find it here: http://www.openhouseonline.com.au/search-podcasts.php?q=virgin

    I thought this show was very interesting. Allan Meyer come on the show to talk about sex, intimacy, virginity and dating. He said on the show people should be going back to old fashioned courtship, where you treat everyone like a brother or sister until your ready to marry them. This means no hugging and kissing aswell not just sex. If you wouldn’t do it with a blood brother don’t do it with your friend either unless your ready to make a full commitment. That when the bible talks about ‘virgins’ they mean women that haven’t been touched at all not just women who haven’t had sex. Thats how to be truly pure for your husband, not to brand yourself to anyone by dating. He also said that when it comes to who you marry your father should have the last word. Your father should be able to step in a say “his not right for you” and you should listen to him. They also talked about the importance of virginity and the history behind it from a bible standpoint. Its not that long podcast so listen to it if your interested.

    Comment by TheJester | October 27, 2010

  3. Just thought I’d point out that, back in the middle ages, the average life expectantcy was 22 years of age. Therefore, one wouldn’t likely live to the age of 70 back then.

    Comment by AceofClubs aka Rene Harrison | October 23, 2011

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