A Life

A weekly podcast about asexuality

A Life #5: Asexuality and Parents

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Coming out to your parents might be the single hardest thing when it comes to asexuality as it is with every minority. In this episode the panelists tell their stories of coming and not coming out to their parents, as well as veer off to all kinds of topics varying from Disney characters to children hitting each other.

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Asexuality and Parents


September 18, 2009 - Posted by | Podcast


  1. On Children, Parents and the urge to breed: I think it has a lot with security and insecurity. For example, the police, their function in reality is social control, protection of property and ultimately to service the state; but a recurrent story in our mind comforts us, advising that the police are nice men and women who protect and serve and “fight crime”.

    In the same way producers, writers, and director of sexual media spin stories that modify offensive behavior and inclinations, such as asexuality or nihilism (pleasant and intelligent, contrary to popular belief) and battle fears of a thinning population, which would lead to less consumers consuming their sponsors’ products and Disney movies and merchandise. Also, families and communities will have young ones to care for the old and society will less like be overrun by psychopaths who have no ultimate purpose: I mean we are all here to breed, right? Bollocks!

    Let’s call it as it is: breeding. Kids are not “had”; they are bred. Two people of opposite sexes mate, breed and rear children to perpetuate happiness, innovation, family, community, society, or civilization. In modern traditions, it is normal to get married and breed, but when one looks about herself it is obvious something needs to change. Modern society is rather caught in a schism and the people of today are functionally schizophrenic. On the one hand, it is the “age of information” and that information conveys that we live in scarcity and population-resource imbalance. At the same time, we carry this ancient practice of breeding despite intellect. There is a disconnect.

    All this said, I think alternomative sexuality such as asexuality and homosexuality offers much insight to the ecological functions of sexuality, orientation, and our need to breed, or lack thereof in the case of asexuals.

    Comment by asexy buddhist | September 21, 2009

  2. ‘But we have a podcast! Of course we’re the right people to talk about ANYTHING!’ Haha, made me laugh!!

    Another great podcast. I’m not out to my parents, and I don’t feel like I’ll ‘come out’ unless they particularly talk to me about my sexuality. They already know I don’t want kids so that shouldn’t be an issue.

    Comment by Sabriel | September 24, 2009

  3. Just an observation:

    If you choose to be absent or celibate from sex your parents are so proud…
    if your sexuality active as a teen its their worst nightmare and can only see STIs and pregnancies and would give anything to get you to wait….
    but if your asexual all hell breaks loose,
    whats so bad about not wanting sex? LOL

    My option they’re just think it means people will find out their child is asexual and think its their fault or their bad parents and that why you turned out that way.

    Its sad that parents would be open to their children coming out as gay then asexual…I hope our visibility continues so we can be seen as normal too. 🙂

    Comment by TheJester | September 27, 2010

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